Archive for January, 2015

What We Can Learn Through the Ludacris Child Custody Battle | Atlanta Divorce Lawyers

Posted on: January 30th, 2015

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At Kitchens New Cleghorn, LLC, our Atlanta divorce lawyers often deal with child custody issues. Whether through divorce or adoption, the welfare of children is a top priority for us. That’s why we took interest in the recent child custody battle that took place between rapper Ludacris and the mother of his child, Tameka Fuller.

Ludacris was awarded full custody of 13-month old daughter, Cai Bella, on January 28 after an ugly court battle. One of the most damaging parts of the testimony came from Fuller when she reportedly accused Ludacris of not wanting Fuller to have the child. She reportedly claimed that the rapper offered her $10,000 to have an abortion.

Whether true or not, this would not mean he was a less fit parent. It does mean, however, that when the child is old enough to do her own research, she might inevitably read this statement and feel the pain that comes with wondering if a parent that you love ever wanted you gone.

Take away: It’s very important to remember that during a heated child custody battle, short-term thinking may help your immediate cause, but could potentially leave a ripple effect that will follow you or your children for years to come. Always think of the best interest of your children first.

How The Feeling of “Unfair” Can Cost You Big in a Divorce | Atlanta Divorce Practice

Posted on: January 23rd, 2015

Chunk of Money | Atlanta Divorce PracticeIn our Atlanta divorce practice, we work very hard to help each client get a fair settlement when they are going through a divorce. Our attorneys try to negotiate in a way where all parties feel like it was a win-win for everyone. Unfortunately, we often see a common problem that stands in the way of a quick and equitable settlement: fairness.

When one partner feels that an injustice has taken place, there is a tendency to want to make the other person “pay” for the wrong that is felt. This is called “equity theory” – the way that we feel satisfaction based on how we perceive the overall fairness (or unfairness) of the way that our shared resources are divided.

If one spouse works full time and the other partner stays home to be a full time parent, this can be looked at as unfair by both sides. The working partner might feel that they have had to “work” while the other partner “got to stay home and do nothing.” The stay-at-home parent might feel unfairness because the working partner got to advance in their career while they themselves lost career opportunities.

Often, the feelings of unfairness manifest themselves when a settlement is being negotiated. One partner wants to bring equity to the unfairness that he/she feels by punishing the other in the settlement agreement. This type of emotional rift can translate into lost money in legal fees as the lawyers haggle over things such as who gets a worthless vase – an item that could be purchased many times over by the amount of money being spent to argue over it. Our law practice recognizes the role that emotions can play in a divorce.

When going through a divorce, remember that this can be a costly mistake. Ask yourself if these things that you want to argue over will really be important in a year. When you realize that moving on is the best gift that you can give yourself, go treat yourself to something nice with all of the money you just saved yourself in emotional and legal expenses – you deserve it!

Marry a Friend, Have Happier Life

Posted on: January 15th, 2015

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With divorce at an all-time high, some good news about marriage has arrived! This new study, conducted by the National Bureau of Economic Research, shows that marriage (especially to your best friend) can make your life happier. In our Atlanta family law practice, we think that’s something to celebrate!

Conducted mostly using data from the United Kingdom, the study says that people who are married are “more satisfied” with their lives than their single counterparts. The researchers says that the happiness is magnified especially during the “mid-life dip” when some couples are known to begin to struggle with issues such as career satisfaction, relationships and health.

The study also explores “friendship as a mechanism” and how marriage to someone who started out as a friend could experience benefits of marriage “twice as large” than those who married someone that they met and began a romantic relationship with to start with.

A Gallup World Poll was also used to “show that although the overall well-being effects of marriage appear to vary across cultural contexts, marriage eases the middle-age dip in life evaluations for all regions except Sub-Saharan Africa.” No explanation was given for why this region didn’t share the same results as their global counterparts.

Bottom line? Marry your best friend and reap the benefits!